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10/11/98 That I May Know Him Pt. 3 Philippians 3:10

10/11/98 That I May Know Him Pt. 3


Phil. 3:8 More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish in order that I may gain Christ,
Phil. 3:9 and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from the Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which comes from God on the basis of faith,
Phil. 3:10 that I may know Him, and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death;
Phil. 3:11 in order that I may attain to the resurrection from the dead.

The knowledge of Christ
      is the lens through which
            all the rest of life is brought into focus.

In one concise, powerful passage
      here in Philip. chapter 3
            the Apostle Paul tells us
                  that the knowledge of Christ
is of such incredible value to him
      that anything else he might have possessed
            is like garbage by comparison.

For the past two weeks
      we've been talking about why that is.

Two weeks ago
      we spent the whole morning
            talking about how it is only through
                  the knowledge Christ
                        that we can gain a true and accurate knowledge of ourselves.

Outside of Christ
      all we have to rely on
            in trying to figure out
                  who we are
                        and why or if we have value
is the feedback we get
      from other human beings.

The problem, of course,
      is that they are all trying to figure out
            who they are, too.
Everyone is competing with everyone else
      for some measure of affirmation
            and acceptance.

But there is no fixed point,
      no absolute, reliable center
            by which we can know ourselves,
                  and know that our knowledge is correct and accurate
      no matter what others may or may not say.

Only the Creator
      can affirm His creation
            in a way that brings us peace
                  with Him,
                        and with ourselves.

Paul told us that he gladly exchanged
      his position of great social prominence
            within the Jewish community,
                  he turned his back on it
                        in exchange for the knowledge of Christ.

Why? Because he was deeply spiritual
      and pious,
            seeing the eternal perspective
                  rather than the temporal view?

No!
      He did it in part
            because the knowledge of Christ
                  could give him something
                        that all of his social success
                              could never give him -
an accurate knowledge of himself.

I had an excellent question come up
      after the service two weeks ago
            that I think we would do well
                  to spend a few minutes on as a group
                        before we move on.

The question was,
      "Just how do we go about
            hearing that voice of affirmation
                  from our Creator
                        in a way that brings that inner peace?"

That's a great question!
How can we find freedom
      from our addiction to the affirmation
            of those around us?

Finding peace with God
      is inseparably linked
            with finding peace with ourselves.

In fact,
      though we try hard to separate the two in our minds,
            I have come to the conclusion
                  that it is impossible for us to like God
                        any more than we like ourselves.

Let me restate that from the other direction
      and maybe it will make more sense.

The degree to which we experience
      true peace with God
            is determined by the degree to which
                  we experience true peace with ourselves.

Want me to try again?
My true heart attitude towards my Creator
      will be determined to a great degree
             by how I choose to evaluate His creation,
and the one part of His creation
      that I know better than all the rest
is myself.

Now let me try to explain.

There is a world of difference
      between accepting God's forgiveness
            and truly being at peace with God.

We can look at our sin
      and our load of guilt
            and our shame
                  and then hear the affirmation of God
      that the death of Christ
            paid the price for the sins
                  of the entire world.

We can confess our sin
      and thank Him for His payment of that debt,
            and know we have eternal life.

But we can do that
      in a way that never allows us
            to believe that God really likes us personally.

EX. Its like being hired by a large corporation
      and being allowed to sign up for their health insurance
            because we are an employee.

It has nothing to do with us personally.
      We qualify simply because
            we are an employee of the company.

In the same way,
      when we are told that Christ died
            for the sins of the whole world,
and we accept His offer of forgiveness through faith Christ,
      emotionally we can find ourselves
            feeling grateful that the debt is paid,
but at the same time
      feeling as though
            it wasn't us personally
                  that God loved and died for
                        so much as it was the whole human race.

My point is this.
      I believe the real test
            of our understanding of God's personal love for us as an individual
      is most accurately mirrored
            in our own attitude towards ourself.

EX.
When we look at ourselves
      and say to ourselves,
"That's no good...
      (and I'm not talking about
            good or bad choices here,
                  I'm talking about who we are
                        by design, as an individual human being,)
when we say,
      "I should be taller,
            or I should be shorter,
                  or I should be smarter,
                        or I should be shaped differently,
or I should have better athletic potential,
      or I should have a better a singing voice,
            or more musical talent,
                  or more charisma..."
Whenever we look at ourselves
      and find ourselves lacking,
            or defective,
                  or wanting,
what we are really saying is,
      "God you goofed!
            God, you blew it.
                  God, you either didn't care,
or I didn't matter enough to you
      for You to make me the way
            I should really have been made."

It is impossible for us to criticize ourselves
      without that criticism
            having a powerful impact
                  on our attitude towards God
                        and our trust in Him.

And when we hear David saying,
Ps. 139:13 ¶ For You (oh God) formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother's womb.
Ps. 139:15 My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth;
      
we know that who we are
            is a direct result
                  of the active designing work of God.

If I do not like me,
      then I will not like the One who made me.

I may worship Him because He's bigger.
      I may submit to Him,
            but I will not like Him,
                  and it will be very hard for me to trust Him.

If I couldn't trust Him to do right by me
      on the day of my creation,
then how can I trust Him now?

So, one of the many things
      that God seeks to accomplish in our lives
            when we come to Him
is to free us from the critical self-evaluation
      that robs us of true peace with ourselves
            and makes it impossible
                  for us to have a true heart of gratitude
                        towards the One who created us.

And all of that was to say
      that if we don't like ourselves
            we're not going to like God very much either,
                  because He is the One
                        who designed us.

Now, there are at least three great forces
      used by Satan
            to keep us from finding peace with ourselves.

1. Our preconceived idea of who we are.

2. Our preconceived idea of who we should be.

3. And lies we believe about the way God views sinful impulses
      and the effects of sin in our lives.

And I want to say a little bit
      about each of those three.

The first is our preconceived ideas
      about who we are.

During the past several weeks
      I have talked a lot about
            the way in which our self-concept
is shaped by the kind of feed-back
      we get from other people around us.

The more significant they are to us
      the more powerful their influence on us.

Maybe the easiest way I can show you
      what I want us to see here
            is to take us back to an illustration
                  I shared with you last August.

Sandee, Joni, and I were eating in a restaurant.
While we were waiting for our food
      a family sat down at the table next to us.

There were at least five or six in the family.
      The father sat down
            along with several of the others
                  including a son about 11 or 12 years old.

As soon as the son sat down
      the father verbally blasted the boy by saying,
"Don't you dare sit down there. You're so stupid. Can't you see there's no chair for your mother?
      Have a little consideration for someone besides yourself.
            Find your mother a chair
                  and bring it over here."

OK,
      in that little speech dad helped to shape
            his son's self-concept.
He told his son:
"You are stupid.
      You are selfish.
            You are thoughtless and inconsiderate."
And by attacking only the boy
      he strongly implied
            that the boy was of less value in the family structure than anyone else,
      and dad's tone throughout the entire message
            told the son clearly that dad was
                  generally deeply displeased
                        with who his son was as a human being.

Now, if that father's input
      into his son's life
            continues in the same vein
                  throughout the boy's childhood
he will grow up
      with a grossly distorted concept of himself.

He will enter his adult years
      mentally and emotionally programmed
            to believe that he is a rather pathetic excuse for a man,
      desperately looking for some external affirmation
            to help him feel a little better about himself.

He won't like himself
      because the self he knows
            is all twisted and distorted
                  by the messages he has received
                        from those around him.

And the truth is
      even the most skilled, loving parents
            pass on all sorts of distorted messages
                  to their children.
And these, combined with the messages
      that come from brothers and sisters,
            and other children at school,
                  and an endless stream of exhausted teachers
      leave all of us with a deeply distorted concept
            of our true God-designed identity.

2. The second major enemy
      to finding peace with ourselves
            is our tragically flawed perception
                  of who we think we should be.

Q. How do you think you should look physically?
      How did you arrive at that mental concept?
Most of us look at the athletes
      or the movie stars
            or the popular people around us
and attempt to conform ourselves
      more closely to their standard.

And just as powerful
      are the lies surrounding how we think we should perform.

Ex. It's impossible to be in the Christian community for long
      without developing a vivid image
            of how the "good Christian" handles his life.

Early in my Christian life
      I was told by a powerfully persuasive
            Christian speaker
that whenever he is with another person
      for more than 10 minutes
            he considers it a divine appointment
                  to present the gospel.

The implication was obvious -
      anyone who's really devoted to Christ
            will follow the same pattern.

For months following my exposure to that fellow
      I made sure I never had a conversation
            with another person
                  that lasted longer than nine minutes.

For years I was certain that
      the only people God could really use
            were extroverts.
For a while I tried very hard to be one,
      but it just exhausted me.

I also believed and was told by many people
      on many occasions
            that I could never hope to be
                  a truly effective Bible teacher
                        until I got to the place where I could teach without notes
      so that the Holy Spirit could move through me unhindered.

I was never real clear about why it was
      that the Holy Spirit could only work
            at 11:00 a.m. Sunday mornings,
but it seemed to be a well known fact.

When I first started handing out my printed manuscripts
      I can remember feeling terribly embarrassed about it
            because it was this glaring proof
                  of how far short of the goal I fell.

Well, the point is this:
      every one of us are fighting two huge lies
            that war against a true heart of gratitude to God for His careful design of us.
The first is a distorted concept
      of who we are,
            and the second is a distorted concept
                  of who we think we should be.

Much of God's healing process in us
      is the process of His correcting
            our distorted concepts
                  in those two areas.

It is a learning process
      that continues in one form or another
            for our entire lives.

Continued exposure
      to the truth in God's Word
            is a crucial ingredient in the healing process.

The careful, personal work of God's Spirit in our lives is essential.

There will be times
      when He will allow us
            to try to be like someone else,
try to force ourselves into the mold
      we think we should fit.

And we'll be able to keep it up
      for a few hours
            or a few days
                  or a few months.

But it will exhaust us,
      and life will become
            an overpowering burden.

And then, in His own perfect way,
we will hear His voice saying,
Ps. 46:10 "Stop your striving and know that I am God..."

and we will hear Him saying,
Matt. 11:28 "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.
Matt. 11:29 "Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls.
Matt. 11:30 "For My yoke is easy, and My load is light."

And we will suddenly realize
      that the yoke we have taken upon ourselves
            is not the one He gave us to carry.
It's crushing us
      because it does not fit
            who we are
                  or the way He designed us.

We didn't get as far with this as I had planned,
      and we'll go back into it for a little while next week,
      but I've brought this whole thing up
            because I believe it is essential
                  for a truly effective walk with God.

Man-made religion will hand you
      a preformed mold you must attempt to squeeze yourself into.

God, on the other hand,
      shatters that mold
            and offers each of us the freedom
                  that can only be found
                        in living in harmony
                              with our individual, unique personal design.