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1/31/99 Live In Harmony In The Lord Philippians 4:2

1/31/99 Live In Harmony In The Lord

We are studying the book of Philippians together.
      We have been studying the book of Philippians together off and on
            for more than a year.

Last week we began chapter 4,
      making it all the way through verse 1.

Today we'll make it through
      at least the next two verses.

Paul takes a definite turn in his letter
      when he reaches
            verses 2 and 3 of this 4th chapter.

Let me read them for us
      and you'll see what I mean.

Phil. 4:2 ¶ I urge Euodia and I urge Syntyche to live in harmony in the Lord.
Phil. 4:3 Indeed, true companion, I ask you also to help these women who have shared my struggle in the cause of the gospel, together with Clement also and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.

Now obviously these two verses
      are highly personal in nature.

They are addressed to three specific individuals,
      two woman,
            and one man,
                  all of whom were members of the church at Philippi.

Paul refers to the two women by name-
Euodia and Syntyche,
      and then refers to the man
            only by the phrase true companion
                  or possibly true comrade.

Obviously, all three of those addressed
      knew who they were.

All three were known personally by Paul.
      He praised the two women
            for the role they had played in his life
                  when he was with them.
They both "shared (his) struggle in the cause of the gospel".

We don't know what role they played
      in Paul's work at Philippi,
            but we do know it established
                  a friendship between them and Paul
                        that he valued a great deal.

The true companion Paul refers to
      was likely one of the elders at the church,
            a man who most likely traveled with Paul on one of his missionary journeys,
                  a man with whom Paul shared
                        both a significant history
                              and a strong friendship.

On the surface Paul's request seems
      both straightforward
            and rather insignificant.

Most likely through his conversation
      with Epaphroditus,
            the Elder from the church at Philippi
                  who had made the trip to Rome
                        with the gift from his friends at Philippi,
Paul had learned that there now existed
      some sort of strain or tension
            between these two Christian ladies.

In a single sentence
      he urges them to live in harmony in the Lord.

Then, in one further comment,
      he enlists the help of his comrade there in Philippi
            to help these two ladies
                  restore harmony between them.

When we first read verses like this
      we may have a tendency to skip over them.

Reading them
      makes us feel as though
            we have accidently opened
                  someone else's mail.

All three of these people
      died nearly 2000 years ago.
Obviously, whether they resolved their conflict or not,
      it's a mute issue now.

But if we look a little closer
      at what's happening between these four people,
      between Paul,
            and Euodia,
                  and Syntyche,
                        and Paul's trusted companion,
I think we're going to see
      that the principles being communicated
            in these two verses
                  are as relevant to us as
                        anything in the entire letter.

You see, it is reasonable to assume
      that, as a result of his face-to-face communication with Epaphroditus,
            Paul not only knew that these two ladies were in conflict,
                  but he also knew WHY.

He knew what the issue was,
      what was causing the tension between these two.

Obviously it could have been anything.
It could have been doctrinal.
      They might have both held strong convictions about some aspect
            of Christian belief,
                  or Christian practice,
                        or Church life,
and been unable to resolve
      their different points of view.

It might have been a relationship issue,
      a family conflict,
            or a stress that grew out of the way in which one of them
                  had dealt with the other's children.

Maybe their children
      had wanted to marry
            and one or the other didn't approve.

Maybe it involved money,
      with one of them feeling as though
            the other had cheated them
                  or been dishonest with them.

Paul certainly knew
      what the issue between these two was,
            and the first thing that hits me
                  as I read this single verse addressed to them
is that we never do!

Paul doesn't tell us what the issue is
      because it doesn't matter.

When Paul addresses this strained relationship
      in this public letter
            he doesn't attempt to resolve the conflict
                  by telling them who's right
                        and who's wrong.

If it was doctrine,
      he doesn't declare who has the right idea and who has the wrong one.

If the conflict concerned their children
      he doesn't tell them
            which one behaved properly
                  and which one was improper.

If it involved money
      he doesn't attempt to determine
            who was honest and who was not.
He doesn't try to resolve the issue
      because the issue is not the issue.

The real issue is that
      two prominent Christians,            
            most likely two leaders in the church,
                  had broken off their friendship with one another
                        because they allowed an issue,
                              ANY issue
to become more important
      than their unity in Christ.

John 13:34 "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
John 13:35 "By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."

Jesus gave the world the right
      to evaluate whether or not
            we are truly His disciples
                  on the basis of whether or not
                        we are able to establish and maintain visible love relationships with one another.

When these two ladies
      in the Philippian Church
            allowed a public, visible breakdown
                  to occur in their relationship with one another
they were proclaiming
      to all those who were watching
            that the presence of Christ in a person's life
                  really makes no difference at all.

I want to try to say something here
      that could easily be misunderstood.

Purity of doctrine
      can never communicate
            the reality of Christ.

We Christians spend a tremendous amount of effort
      building and refining our doctrinal belief systems.

We wrestle with difficult doctrinal
      and theological questions.
What do we believe about the return of Christ?
      Will Christians go through the tribulation?
            Where will the AntiChrist come from?
                  What is the mark of the beast?

What do we believe about the gifts of the Holy Spirit?
      Are the sign gifts relevant for today?
            If not, why?
                  If so, how should they be incorporated into the life of the church?

How should a local body of believers organize themselves?
      What is the role of church leadership?
            How should a church handle
                  divorce?
                        division?                  
                              open immorality?

Those questions
      and hundreds others like them
            send growing Christians
                  deep into the Bible
looking for guidance,
      for principles,
            for answers.

In the process we build,
      precept upon precept,
            doctrine upon doctrine,
our systematic Christian belief system.

In the process
      we also learn about our God -
            who He is,
                  how He relates to us,
                        what it means to be His child.

His Word becomes food
      that literally feeds our spirit
            and equips us to grow.

It is understandable that,
      given the effort,
            and sometimes agony            
                  that we invest in building our doctrinal systems,
      in the end they become very valuable to us,
            very important to us.

And they should be.

But the truth is
      if we could take our entire personal doctrinal system
            and write it up
                  and hand it to a nonchristian,
they would probably respond by saying, "So What!!"

And you know something,
      their response would be absolutely valid.

From their perspective
      our funny little group of ideas about God
            is of no more value
                  and no more significance
than the hundreds of thousands of other
      little religious systems flooding our world.

The nonchristian drives down the street
      and passes one group that believes
            that Christians will be pulled out before the Tribulation,
and two blocks farther on
      he passes another group
            that believes Christians will go through the whole Tribulation,
and two blocks beyond that
      he passes a group
            that doesn't even believe
                  there will be a Tribulation
and it would be difficult
      to find anything apparently less relevant
            to his life,
with less power to draw him to God
      than our little package of doctrines.

Because what he's looking for
      is not the best system,
            that covers all the verses,
                  with all the diagrams,
                        and foot notes,
                              and proof texts.
What he's looking for
      is something that can change his life.

And so, the question he'll ask
      and the one he has every right to ask
            is not, "What do you believe?",
but rather,
      "How does what you believe
            affect your life?"

By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.

Paul addressed
      this broken relationship between
            these two Christian women at Philippi
because what was happening in their lives
      was publicly proclaiming the message
            that in the end the presence of Christ
                  in a person's life
                        makes no practical difference in our relationships with one another.

And in this single verse
      Paul is saying,
"My good friends,
      I know you are both children of the King. PLEASE, illustrate that truth
            in your relationship with one another."

Now, that sounds great,
      but how, then, are they suppose to
            resolve whatever issue it was
                  that brought about this breakdown between them in the first place?

Doesn't somebody have to change their doctrine?
      Doesn't somebody have to change their position?
            Doesn't somebody have to be "RIGHT"
                  and the somebody have to be "WRONG"?

Well, to tell you the truth, NO they don't.

What they need to do
      is to choose to make their relationship with one another
            more important than the issue that has divided them.

And I need to offer one more point of clarification here
      in order for this to make sense.

God has never called us to a structural unity within the Body of Christ,
      He has called us to a unity of spirit.

Or, stated differently,
      it is not our organizational structure
            or our shared doctrinal statement
                  that unites God's people,
it is our shared submission
      to the Lordship of Christ in our lives.

If it was doctrine that divided these two
      Paul was saying,
"I want you to accept and respect the other person,      
            even though you believe their ideas are wrong."

If they were fighting over
      how to organize the women's Bible study,
            they say to one another,
"Our friendship with one another
      is more important than this project.
We'll set the whole thing aside,
      or we'll each work separately
            on the approach we think is best,
                  while preserving our friendship with one another."

If they found it impossible
      to teach the class together
            without friction developing between them,
      then don't teach the class together
            for the sake of their friendship."

Simply stated,
      Paul is calling them to make
            the preservation of a workable relationship between them
      a higher priority than their individual rights,
            or their possessions,
                  or their ideas.

Maybe some personal illustrations will help.

A little known fact in our fellowship
      is that I was once on staff
            at another church here in Soldotna.

I was their youth pastor for a year.
Then I was on their deacon board,
      and for a brief time I even held the position of assistant pastor.

The longer I was involved in the church, however,
      the more I realized how strongly I disagreed with the goals
            and the structure of the group.

In the end I finally realized
      that the healthiest thing I could do
            for my relationship with my fellow Christians in that church
                  was to break off STRUCTURAL ties with them
      so that I could preserve my relationships with them.

I left the church.

That was nearly 20 years ago now.
      I still see some of those Christians around town occasionally,
            and every time I see them
                  I share with them a strong friendship
      and a deep unity of spirit.

Here within our own fellowship
      we have a wide range of different doctrinal beliefs.

Even on our church board
      the four of us see some things very differently.

There are some places
      where I think Chuck is totally out to lunch.

If we allowed it to,
      any one of the countless differences
            that exist between us here in this church
      could destroy our visible unity in Christ.

And the only reason it doesn't
      is because every time we meet together,
            every time we see each other,
                  we each bring to those meetings
                        a value system that says,
"My relationship with you as my fellow Christian
      is more important than anything else."

It doesn't mean we sacrifice our beliefs,
      or our convictions,
it means we choose not to sacrifice our friendship with one another
      because of them."

And that, ultimately, is always a choice
      we can and must make.

Phil. 4:2 ¶ I urge Euodia and I urge Syntyche to live in harmony in the Lord.
Phil. 4:3 Indeed, true companion, I ask you also to help these women who have shared my struggle in the cause of the gospel, together with Clement also and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.