What is your partner's behavior around your friends and family? (does he/she try to limit your time with them?)
How does your partner interact with his/her own family members? (what was his/her childhood like?)
Does your partner act or behave in a jealous manner toward you (using "love" as a reason)?
Does your partner tell you where you may go, what to do, who you may talk with, etc.?
Did your partner push for quick and exclusive involvement with you?
How does your partner react to your personal limits and boundaries?
Does your partner express his/her needs in an inappropriate manner (demanding, criticizing, etc.)?
What is your partner's view on gender equality? Does he/she have a rigid role belief?
Does your partner ridicule your thoughts, beliefs, and decisions?
Are you able to share your thoughts and feelings openly with your partner without feeling afraid or having to
justify yourself?
Does your partner blame you or others for making him/her "feel angry"?
Does your partner have difficulty expressing emotions other than frustration; does he/she boast about
confrontations with others?
Does your partner call you names or make you feel stupid (even in public)?
Does your partner give you gifts to make up for his/her behavior toward you?
Has your partner ever threatened to harm you or your children?
Has your partner ever threatened to commit suicide?